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5 things Couples Therapy Can Help With—Part 5: Feeling Insecure

5/25/2020

 
​Did you miss a blog in this series? Click here to read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, and Part 4.
A romantic relationship is simultaneously the source of the greatest security and comfort, while being the scariest and riskiest place to be vulnerable. When someone is the most important person in the world, it is only natural to feel insecure.
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When we are emotionally disconnected, we feel more insecure in relationships.
 
This is because emotionally safe and close connections are necessary for humans to live full lives. Everyone needs a strong connection to at least one other person. As children this is usually a connection to parents or siblings. As we grow up, this may changes to close friends. For most people, this important person is usually their spouse or romantic partner.
 
Humans are biologically hardwired for connection. When we don’t have connection, it can cause a host of medical and mental health challenges. And the loss of a connection can be traumatic—in fact, it is well researched that going though a break up can cause trauma symptoms similar to PTSD but on a smaller scale.
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Because of the importance of this connection, the idea of being disconnected from my partner is inherently terrifying. This can cause a lot of fear, anxiety, depression, guilt, and embarrassment.
 
It is normal to feel insecure and have strong emotional reactions when the relationship bond is threatened with disconnection. 
 
The key to managing this insecurity is building a relationship where sharing vulnerability is valued and treasured. It is through shared vulnerability that we can increase our emotional connection, and repair the relationship when there has been a moment of disconnection. Couple therapy can help you take the risk to be vulnerable while also training you how to create the emotional safety for you partner to be vulnerable with you. 
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    Kristofer Van Wagner link
    1/12/2021 11:06:54 pm

    I do agree that it is important for couples to feel emotionally secure and safe in their relationship. It is wonderful that this post assured us that couples counselling can help couples achieve this goal. The other day my friend mentioned he and his wife are going through a rough patch, mostly triggered by jealousy and insecurity. I will recommend them to consider couples counselling to help their relationship.

    Larry Weaver link
    3/29/2021 04:27:30 pm

    I appreciate this information about couples therapy. My sister and her husband are unhappy. I'll tell her about he advantages of couples therapy.

    Braden Bills link
    6/2/2021 09:30:09 am

    My wife and I have been having a hard time with our relationship. It makes sense that getting a couples counselor would be really beneficial. I'll talk with one that has experience with things like this.

    Kristofer Van Wagner link
    6/2/2021 05:04:06 pm

    I am grateful that this post pointed out that marriage counselling is excellent to help couples deal with feelings of insecurity. The other day my sister-in-law shared that she is looking to hire a counsellor to help improve their marriage. I will advise to hire someone certified and credible.

    Tez link
    7/22/2021 06:39:19 pm

    That is true that human beings are hardwired for connection. My son wasn't allowed to hang out with his friends during the pandemic and developed depression. I'll have to get him a therapist to help with coping mechanisms.

    Beverly Minyard link
    8/25/2021 01:50:52 pm

    I like that you mentioned that humans are hardwired for connection. My sister is having problems with her husband. She says she thinks she isn't cut out to be in a relationship with someone. I think she is wrong and just needs to work on it.

    Braden Bills link
    9/13/2021 09:25:42 am

    My friend has been having a hard time taking care of his business, and he's not sure what to do. It makes sense that he would want to get the proper counseling for him! I'll be sure to get a professional to help out with that.


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