Everyone has to start over in life, and if you are a military family then that is definitely the case. What makes change so hard? Have you wondered how to start over and create a new life for yourself?
In this podcast episode, Elizabeth Polinsky discusses relationship dynamics of divorce, deployment, and remarriage and how to start over.
IN THIS PODCAST
What is really hard is when you lose someone who meant the world to you, who was your home.”
Life transitions are inevitable especially with military life.
Each transition comes with a lot of stress as roles change.
Kids start feeling stressed because you are stressed.”
Create a new normal through routines and rituals.
Rituals help people process the grief and are a symbol of moving on to something new.”
Pick a better partner in the future. It is not usually one partner’s fault that the relationship didn’t work. It takes two to tango and there are often situational reasons for the relationship to end. However it is also important to think about your pattern for how you picked out partners in the past and how your formed relationships. You can increase the likelihood of your future relationships a little better by examining your patterns. This is where therapy can be really helpful. For example if you have a pattern of feeling like you are the responsible one in the relationship, or if you consistently pick people who are not emotionally available, then therapy can help you figure out how to change your pattern and pick someone where that pattern won't be recreated.
What do you really want in a relationship moving forward? Do you want the same pattern or do you want to change it up?”
If you are newly single or are getting remarried, decide on one new tradition that can be part of the new normal. Start making it happen.
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Elizabeth Polinsky is a marriage and couple therapist specializing in working with military members, veterans, and their families. Liz is located in Norfolk, Virginia, and provides online counseling services throughout Virginia, South Carolina, and Arkansas.
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